We want others to see the outer surface of your lives, while things beneath go unnoticed. Men often give so much of themselves that they lose sight of you (women) and neglect important underlying issues. When given the option, we refuse to deal with critical things. We keep them inside and fail to confront our own problems, while we give ourselves to others. Trying to avoid issues may hinder relationships, marriages, and ourselves. Allowing inward concerns to surface and erupt at the wrong time can potentially destroy or damage people who are connected to us.